This morning Olivia slept till 10, played quietly while I started laundry and made breakfast, took a longer than normal nap, and has been all smiles and coos….ahhhh…a “perfect” morning. Everyday doesn’t run this smoothly, but for the most part we have our routine and everyone stays in a good mood. I’m sure every parent knows though, that there are times when raising a child and taking care of a household is the complete opposite of perfect! Days where I haven’t showered, Thomas is running late for work, the dog chews a hole in our comforter, Olivia hasn’t slept and doesn’t want me to put her down, I drop the jar of sauce that was supposed to go on our dinner, the phone won’t stop ringing, and then the dog tracks mud through the carpet….yeah I wouldn’t mind just sleeping through days like that.
It can be so hard to remember to take care of yourself sometimes and to convince yourself that you are justified in feeling stressed out. Anyone who says parenting isn’t stressful at least part of the time either hasn’t been a parent or has a lot of money for a nanny, chef, personal assistant, personal trainer, chauffeur, house keeper, and probably an in-home masseuse.
I came across this article on my home page and really like what it has to say.
Here are a few of my favorites I think every parent should remember
“Slash the to-do list Instead of feeling badly that you’re too tired to get anything done, give yourself an extension on everything that doesn’t need to be done immediately. ”
This is especially true with a newborn. Try to mentally prepare yourself before the birth that the dishes will not alway be put up immediately and that you will need to ask for help if you want to keep your sanity. Your job is caring for that baby. No one will notice if your floors aren’t vaccumed or you didn’t pick up your dry cleaning. All they’ll see is a beautiful new mother and a perfect little angle.
“Increase your water intake Dehydration can cause headache and exhaustion, leaving you feeling even more tired than you already are. Aim to drink about eight 8-ounce glasses of water per day. “
It’s funny that something so simple can make such a huge impact. You’ll be surprised how much better you’ll feel if you increase the amount of water you take in. I don’t have much else to say about this one because it really is that simple…drink water regularly.
“Count your blessings Ten fingers and ten little piggies — you have a lot to be thankful for. “Research has shown that counting blessings is an effective coping strategy for both new mothers and new fathers,” says Robert Emmons, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis. “In parents of two- to three-month-old infants, being thankful was related to less stress and greater perceived spousal support,” he says. Try to make it a ritual that you do every day while brushing your teeth or taking your vitamin — get used to feeling grateful on a regular basis.”
This one for me personally has made a huge difference in my life. When you think you have it bad, just remember it could always be worse. Yes, we will all have moments of self pity and want sympathy from other but do not linger on it, things will always get better if just had it over to God. Count your blessings and rejoice in what you have been given. The reason I became a mother at the time that I did was because another family lost their little girl at just 47days old (if your interested in the story here is a link to my personal blog for Olivia http://letters2olivia.wordpress.com/2011/10/24/your-gaurdian-angel/)
“Indulge your vanity A study by Pantene found that 88 percent of women feel good about themselves when their hair looks the way they want. So don’t feel guilty taking time to blow-dry your hair or getting a sitter so you can squeeze in a haircut.”
I get dressed up to go to the grocery store some days. It makes me feel like a human again. Don’t get me wrong, I love lounging in my pjs all day when I’m home with Olivia, but taking just a few minutes out of the day to get ready is refreshing. And I’m sure my husband likes being reminded he did actually marry a woman who can clean up nicely. 😉
“Remember to laugh When your baby dumps the bowl of sweet potatoes over her head (or yours), use humor to remember what’s most important: the image of your daughter all covered in orange goo”
If you didn’t think parenting would come with it’s share of messes well…there’s no nice way to say it but you were wrong! Take picture so you can laugh with your kids later about the “master piece” they drew on the walls. Don’t encourage the unwanted behavior, but don’t stress out about it. Clean it up and move on with life. There much more important things to worry about.
So when life gets you down, take a deep breath, look at the miricale your child is (even when throwing a temper tantrum), and turn your day around for the better.